Firlefanz
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"The Art of Extreme Self-Care"
... by Cheryl Richardson
It's a fun book, and quite seriously meant. Because taking care of yourself is the basis for taking care of others, it's worth considering.
I love this book because it offers much and doesn't force you to do anything. Cheryl suggests doing twelve things, each one for a whole month. This way, changing your life will take a year - plenty of time to adjust.
And no, it's not a diet book, not a workout book, it's on a much more personal and even spiritual level. To me, it's inspiring. I want to start with the idea of saying "I love you, Firle!" to myself every morning when I look into the mirror. Let's see if I can do that for a whole month!
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5/26/2012, 12:50 pm
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Saijen SilverWolf1
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Re: "The Art of Extreme Self-Care"
Firle, it took me a long time to get to the point I could tell myself that I love me...now, it's a given. I love the person I am....if I can get to that point, so can you!!
Self-esteem is a hard issue to deal with, but mine has soared in the last few years..and even more-so in the last few months, with working with the theater. This new job you're about to embark on, may be to you what the theater was to me....embrace it, and allow it to help change your life for the better!!!
--- "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you"
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5/28/2012, 10:02 pm
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Syrakynn
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Re: "The Art of Extreme Self-Care"
Learning to love, accept, and embrace every facet of yourself and your personality is something everyone should learn. I learned it years ago. I hope you learn it soon Firle.
How we value ourselves, often translates into ow other people value us. Just don't get so carried away you trip over the line of conceit. Confidence in your own value is not a form of conceit, since conceit is usually insecurity buried under the shallow exterior of false emotions.
Whereas a sure knowledge of personal value is total security, surrounded by a deep, emotional understanding and acceptance of yourself and your own inner, shining beauty that has been waiting to be unveiled from the darkness.
--- Author of the Dragon's Call series, and the Bound novels.
Website http://www.adtrosper.com/
Blog: https://adtrosper.wordpress.com/
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5/30/2012, 9:04 pm
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Saijen SilverWolf1
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Re: "The Art of Extreme Self-Care"
The best way to express a love of yourself is complete self acceptance, without ego.
I have no problem admitting that I don't know a lot, but that I'm willing to learn. What I do have is a confidence in myself that, even if I don't know, I'm not stupid, so I CAN know, if I choose to learn. I can easily admit that I have a great deal to learn, but I have no problem telling people I'm smart and can learn if they just work with me on some things.
I'm confident that, while I may not look like a fashion model, my personality makes up for the lack of being gorgeous on the outside. It's my inside that counts in the long run...even beautiful people eventually lose their looks! lol.... I love the person I am, I love that I try to treat people how I wish to be treated, and, it's OK if they push me in the other direction, because I'm confident enough in myself to know that, if they wanna get ugly, I can still be my beautiful self and get beyond them. I don't have to resort to their ugliness like I used to think I had to in order to make myself heard.
My ex used to tell me that I was too fat to wear certain things out in public ( a nice, longer pair of shorts and tank top), and that, no other man would accept me as long as I was over-weight (I weighed 127 pounds when we got married..gained from being pregnant, then meds blew me up like a balloon). He broke my spirit..and almost broke me, but I got myself back. I no longer put up with BS from anyone, but I also know I don't have to resort to tearing a person down to make myself feel better, cause, honey, I feel pretty damn good about me now!
Firle, it took me a while to get to this point...so, never give up. If you're willing, it will happen. Give yourself permission to love the person you are NOW...not the person you WANT to be. Love who you are NOW, and once you've given yourself that permission, and fully accepted it, you'll be amazed at what follows!!!
YOU CAN DO THIS!!! I have faith in you..and you do too, even if it's slightly buried at the moment..it's there!!!
Love you, girl, and just keep saying to yourself... 'YES I CAN, YES I WILL' AND... 'I'M PRETY DAMN AWESOME, JUST LIKE I AM!!!'
--- "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you"
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